As wellness coach and spa therapist I come across a lot of people that come in for a treatment at the spa only when they are on holiday, so maybe once a year. That makes me wonder – how important is self-care to them?
I agree with you that self-care is not limited to having a massage or a refreshing facial, it can take all kinds of forms. For some it is the visit to the hairdresser, a walk at the beach, visiting the gym or going out with friends.
What these acts do have in common is that you consciously do something that nourishes your mind, body and soul. What exactly it is will be different from person to person.
I myself for example don’t see a huge party as self-care, as it is not something that nourishes me. But meeting a good friend for a coffee, having dinner with a small group of friends or reading a great book, which is definitely self-care for me.
Now the big question: How important is self-care?
How much time to you take each day or each week to look after yourself? To re-fill your cup so you can give to others again? Or do you just keep giving, giving, giving without a break and empty yourself without even realizing it?
Coming back to the clients I have that allow themselves a massage only one a year, when I talk to them about it they always see it as a luxury, something that you can’t (or shouldn’t) spend your money on too often.
But I bet you that most of these guys and girls do check their car on a regular basis to make sure it is in good shape and doesn’t break down. But they don’t think they need to give this level of care to themselves.
Maybe it doesn’t have to be a massage each week (even though I personally would love to get that), but I am convinced that you need to have smaller and larger self-care-rituals every day of the week and that you need to consciously plan them ahead. Otherwise they will be forgotten easily.
There are a lot of things you can do for yourself that don’t cost a lot of time and/or money. Which ones you pick is entirely up to you and your personal favourites. Some suggestions I have for you are:
- Go for a walk in the park or along the beach
- Go for a swim or a workout
- Chill out in your favourite coffee place
- Write in your journal
- A bath at the end of the day
- Trying something new (new food, new route, new anything)
- Meeting with friends
- Reading a good book
- Getting pampered (spa, salon, anywhere)
- Have small and big adventures
- Go to the movies
- Have a party
I know you get the idea. So now it’s about scheduling regular self-care activities into your routine. And maybe even have a friend as your accountability partner to check if you are sticking to look after yourself.
What is your preferred way of self-care? Or do you think that’s something you don’t have time for and don’t need? Share your insights with me in the comments below, I am looking forward to hearing from you.